YFriday, July 28, 2006
Most of that advice has nothing to do with how
things ACTUALLY work with men, dating and
relationships.
That's right. Nothing.
Especially when it comes to how men become
attracted and interested in long term
relationships with women.
So if you've been listening to your mom, your
girlfriends, guy friends, etc., then odds are
you're not having a lot of success, right?
But tons of women (and men) still follow that
everyday "common sense" advice and try things that
just don't really help.
Here are a few examples of the advice you'll
hear from the people around you:
- Act a little "bitchy" because men secretly like
it
- Go hang out where "good men" are likely to be
and you'll meet a great guy
- Be active, have fun and keep a busy and
interesting life of your own
- Don't act clingy or needy
- Don't expect to meet any good men in bars,
clubs, party places, etc.
- Meet men while doing things you like to do so
you have similar interests
- Let him initiate... wait for him to call you or
ask you out
- Play a little bit "hard to get"
Sound familiar?
hahas.. ok that wasn't what i thought about but here's the thing.
ever wondered how its ever so often that you like someone and he/she likes someone else and that person he/she likes also likes someone else.
i guess while you're busy noticing someone you think you like. you're at the same time ignoring someone who could potentially be liking you. ever thought about that ? ok you probably don't know the person you're ignoring could possibly like you anyway.
hmm sounds kind of deep here. i guess its just very difficult for two really compatible individuals to meet considering how circle of friends usually is confined in our classes ?? school ?? church ?? extra clubs or others..
ok just imagine there's a quite pretty, funny and nice girl whose name is G and G used to like this boy [we'll call him B] in the past. B on the other hand liked a maybe more attractive girl to him called A.
B started asking A out on dates and what not.. and then he realised things wouldn't work out. then he sees G going out with another guy [lets call him X]. they're having fun laughing and joking around on some nice date to the movies or something.
B thinks to himself. "hmmm G's actually a nice girl and she's quite pretty eh . how come i never noticed her before ?? if only i were the guy she was with, laughing and having fun"
how come... how come its so difficult to like someone and have that person like you back. lolx.
very strange right. if only things don't have to be so complicated right
aiyah thats so super random. oh well.. i went to elizabeth st to band in the cheque for uncle fokchin. hahas.
and this morning i was EARLY for chem lecture eh ..
ninghui lent me the FRIENDS vcd to watch. although she passed me season8 hahas.
nvm i can slowly borrow from her. oh well..
i drew funny pictures on ninghui's hand today during maths lect and she drew on mine. what super-shy !! and some funny fat feet. her fat feet look like some stone with toes lar lolx
shoE was here with you at